Women and Financial Independence.


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And the debate over whether financial independence is the key to granting women the much-disputed freedom that has been an ad nauseum topic of conversation persists. The majority of the women, especially in our part of the world, choose to remain in abusive relationships because “Hum phr kahan jayn ge?”  (Then where will we go..?)

Life changing decisions like these should not be based on something as temporary as money, but rather, on mutual respect and love. If one wants to stick by someone and beat all odds, and the ups and downs of that particular relationship, then that should be out of unconditional love, not because one is financially dependent on anyone.

Financial independence may not liberate one from a lot of incarcerations, but it does help terminate at least one of them.

Sad as it may sound, a large percentage of the female population willingly chooses to endure physical and emotional abuse at the hands of their guardians (let us conveniently ignore the fact that an adult woman here is still in need of a guardian), namely their husbands, fathers or brothers. Besides the infamous Loag kya kahyn ge?” (What will people say?), financial dependency plays a major role in such voluntary acts of imprisonment. And let us not disremember that acts of oppression are not merely limited to physical and emotional abuse, but also opprobriously encompass the relentless trampling of frightened dreams, the ruthless murder of camouflaged ambitions, the communal poisoning of censored desires, the scathing judgments on personal likes and dislikes. Naturally, without any means to support themselves, the victimized women continue to bear the brunt of fragile, male egos because they ensure the sole means of their survival.

If they are to seek freedom from this mental inferno, then it is peremptory that they learn to stand up on their own two feet, whether it is by learning basic skills like sewing and stitching, or by acquiring a professional education. This vicious cycle of female oppression that begins with female infanticide and ends at the death of a woman used as a reproductive machine, must stop. This foul orifice in our society is the ignominious shadow that has been hovering over hypocritical generations since time immemorial and is guilty of inhibiting our social, moral and intellectual growth.

Let us not expect a man to dream for us, live for us. After all, they do not breathe for us, eat for us or sleep for us. Give yourself wings.

“How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself?”

― Anaïs Nin

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2 thoughts on “Women and Financial Independence.

  1. Women are both physically and mentally prisoned by our society especially in Islamic nations to various levels of constraints. For example women can drive in most nations except Saudi Arabia or one or two others.
    In Urban cities physical freedom is mostly there, but mental freedom is sadly lagging, this needs to be addressed urgently. How to educate women in self reliance, having confidence in their ability to survive without men. Females from cradle are taught you need male to protect you, provide for you. Allah’s instructions in Quran “men and females are equal but different”. Since “Equality” is mentioned before being “different ” in this authors humble opinion Equality is given more weight then difference. Our Islamic societies have reverted back to pre-Islamic societies. Female gender is also blackmailed to get into marriage partnership to produce children, even if it means living in miserable relationships. Females are never given free choice to produce or not to produce a child. Even child’s gender is actioned again female child. Male baby is celebrated as fantastic future asset, and female baby as net future burden. This was true when human socities were hunter gatherers, but now females can easily provide for themselves they do not need a man. In modern societies females can run nations, fly planes or mine coal.
    Our Sisters and daughter must have freedom to choose motherhood or not they must not be pressured by mental blackmail. Obeying Allah is very important for Muslim societies, therefore both genders must support gender equality. It is disobedience to Allah if you allow gender in- equality.
    Yes I am a man. I also respect, love, and fear Allah, and desperately need to please my creator.

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